How to be a Loyal Wife to your NOT so Loyal Husband

You tell yourself on that day, something is different. You know that your gut is right and decide to ask, "Is everything okay?" or "what's wrong?" He denies a problem or simply isn't aware of the difference in himself. You start to question your gut and decide to ignore that unique gnawing feeling. As the days pass you begin to grow farther apart. Until one day, you realize indeed, that is just what happened. SOUND FIMILIAR, well this was just what happened to me. I look back now and wish I could have prevented all that followed. Sometimes during the mix of everything, life can feel unfortunate. But I know that God has a plan and it doesn't say it's going to be pain free. Meanwhile, we need some advice, counseling, or someone to which we can relate.

I'm here to share my experiences with you and maybe with the grace of God you'll find it helpful. On that day, when he started to look at me a little less or didn't take time to gaze into my eyes, which by the way, are quite a treat to look into. I shouldn't have ignored myself (my God given advice). Instead, I should have put in the extra effort to get his attention or force him to look into my eyes. Whether it would have been serious or sarcastic doesn't matter. The connection would have closed the crack before it grew into a crater. Do not let the cracks go unaddressed. Address the cracks while they're small, leaving the job much easier to seal. I'm not telling you to nag your husband but merely invest in him. You'll find when the crater is present that he is worth the investment. Start investing into one of our greatest investments, a wonderful father to your children and your once again best friend.

Turn that day when he looked at you differently into the day he differently looks at you!

To be faithful to; Plighted Love; Duty

Definition of plight: To pledge; as one's word or honor; to give as a security

Hoochie- You might be asking what is a "Hoochie?" The best way to describe a hoochie is the lady who tries to get your husbands attention while you are front and center. ( Ladies you know who you are!) I'm here to tell you that we all have a little "Hoochie" in us but don't use it in the ways some of us choose to. Using it with your husband will get his attention away from the desperate ladies.

Go Ahead and Be the Lady that Gets your Husband's Attention

These few simple ideas can give you a jump start to keep his attention on you.

Umph- Forget about the dimples, stretch marks and curves that are all in the wrong places and utilize your beautiful body. Start by letting him see you in the daylight. Oops, you dropped something. Go ahead and bend over to pick it up. After taking a shower with or without him go ahead, directly in front of your husband shake the access water off "puppy style." Trust me he'll enjoy that extra perverted umph your putting forth.

Opportunity - Your sex life doesn't always consist of body to body connection (although that is preferred). To get his undivided attention "think opportunity." While putting on your underwear go ahead and take advantage of this moment. Sit on the bed and put your underwear on with your legs in the air, "three year old style." Who knew that would come in handy. Even if you're not planning on any physical action he'll appreciate the visual.

Reliable - Keep this to yourself. Use your calendar to plan touch and feel times. These times are for the spontaneous experiences that fall far and between. You don't always want to plan your bedroom time, but for backup it works. If you haven't noticed, our men have a physical clock which keeps track. Typically, women do not; we might have to resort to the calendar, which is no problem as long as we don't rely on it. But at least we are keeping it reliable for them.

Fresh - Trying new things with your husband can be troubling at times, but if we have ideas fresh in our minds, attempting them will be more likely . It might be a massage of his head, neck, back, rear-end, on the flip side, legs or feet. It might be a kiss on his lips, ears, neck, full body or toes. It might be a new bed time ritual like stripping, dancing, or dirty talking. Initiate in new areas of the house, yard, neighbors yard, parties (not in public) but maybe a bathroom. It might be caressing while performing our wifely duties or different positions. Trying positions at first is always more uncomfortable than comfortable, maybe a position of the month.

Regardless of how "Hoochie" we become with our Husbands, it is all in Good Fun!

Remember that as wives, we are the neck and the neck turns the head. If we want our husband to be or remain Loyal to us, we need to be Loyal to them and following this little advice and personalizing the information for your home will make this more fun and more obtainable. If we speak their language they are more likely to speak ours!